After you have identified your triggers; the next step will be to identify what type of anger you’re classified in. Research shows there are various types of anger. I will list the most common types below. Credits of LifeSupportCounselling.com
Assertive anger is the Golden Rule! This is a type that we should all aspire to achieve. If you identify with this type you’re person that uses your feelings of frustration and anger as a catalyst for positive change. Rather than becoming conflicting and aggressive, or using hostile and derogatory offensive language you exercise your anger in ways that are constructive for creating change in the world.
Behavioral anger is exactly what it sounds like. People with this Anger type are aggressive, unstable, and very unpredictable; oftentimes substance abuse intensifies the anger. Which results into them having legal and interpersonal consequences. They release their anger by lashing out on objects around them or by destroying property. This anger type may also call someone to escalate to physically attacking someone else.
Managing strategies– one simple tip for someone with this class is to Simply cool down! Delayed responses is key. It allows you to CALM DOWN, but also rationalize your thoughts. This also may require you to physically remove yourself from whatever is antagonizing you. Remember positive self-talk is useful in these situations as well.
Chronic anger is developed over time; this is the result when you don’t let go of things. This type of anger morphs into resentment for certain people or situations and sometimes oneself.
Managing Strategies– spend time reflecting on the underlying cause of your anger. If you can identify the source of your resentment you may be able to resolve the inner conflict you’re experiencing by forgiving yourself in the others for their past transgressions. Forgiveness is Powerful! It will help you resolve lingering feelings of hurt and frustration.
This type of anger is brought on when people feel that their situation or circumstance is beyond control. Which creates feelings of hopelessness and frustration. Stress is the major fueling aid for this anger type. People with this type of anger generally express it doing work or at home.
Managing strategies- Ask for help! It is crucial to reach out to people by letting them know that you’re overwhelmed and that you need help carrying your load. This will reduce some of the stress you’re feeling which in turn should help you regain a sense of behavior and emotional control.
People who have passive aggressive anger generally are in a state of denial. They truly don’t believe anything is wrong with them. They oftentime repress any feelings of frustration or anger and avoid confrontation of all cost. Ironically they may use sarcasm to release their feelings of frustration.
Managing Strategies- Understand that just because you don’t express any feelings of anger doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Honor how you’re feeling by learning assertive communication techniques.
Self-Abusive Anger– is a shame-based type of anger. If you’ve been feeling hopeless, unworthy, humiliated or ashamed, you might internalise those feelings and express anger via negative self talk, self-harm, substance use, or eating disordered behaviour. Alternatively, you may find yourself lashing out at those around to mask feelings of low self-worth, increasing your sense of alienation.
Managing Strategies –Learn about and use them to challenge and transform any self-defeating, distorted thoughts and feelings you’re experiencing. Mindfulness meditation can also help centre you in the present moment and deal with any impulses to engage in self-harming behaviours.
I pray and hope that bringing Awareness to this sensitive issue has been Informative and Helpful! If you need to seek additional support than do that by joining Anger Management Class. I encourage you to definitely start the process of working through your Anger. Remeber that having an Emotional Balanced Life is ESSENTIAL to creating a Happy Life!1💖